JESUS NEVER MENTIONED HOMOSEXUALITY. SO WHY SHOULD CHRSITIANS SPEAK ON THE SUBJECT.

Majority of those who support the LGTB Community argue that since Jesus never mentioned homosexuality, He did not condemn it to be sinful. Why then should Christians worry themselves over it?

It is technically true that Jesus did not address specifically the issue of homosexuality, however, He did speak clearly about sexuality in general. In the Gospel Book of Matthew 19:4-6, Jesus grounds the institution of marriage firmly in the created reality of sexual dimorphism: Jesus answered, haven’t you read in the scripture that says that in the beginning the Creator made people male and female? And God said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two become one.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.” In this passage, Jesus clearly referred to Adam and Eve, and affirmed God’s intended design for marriage and sexuality.
The primary purpose of marriage, both in Genesis 1&2 is just much more than a companionship. It is framed by concept of vocation: the vocation of humanity to be fruithful and multiply, to fill and subdue the earth, to guard and keep the garden, and to uphold its law. After the fall, marriage is also formed by the reality of death and the need to survive and multiply.

Companionship isn’t as primary an end of marriage in biblical thought as it is within contemporary society where, given the nature of our world and economy, companionship with a spouse has to bear the sort of existential weight that were previously typically borne by thick relationships within a settled community.

Rather than take a premissive view of sexual immorality, Jesus affirmed that people are either to be single and celibate, or married and faithful to one spouse of the OPPOSITE sex. He considered any other expression of sexuality sinful. And this includes same-sex activities.
For the fact that Jesus didn’t specifically speak on the subject does not mean He endorsed it. The goal of the Gospels was not to give us a comprehensive list of sinful activities, and there are so many obvious sins that are not even found in the Gospels. For example: Jesus never said kidnapping was a sin, yet we all know that stealling children is wrong.
The scripture warned Christians to “Avoid immorality. Any other sin a man commits does not affect his body; but a man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body” 1Corinthians 6vs18. And same-sex activity is a sin against a person’s body.

The Christian teaching on subjects such as marriage and sexuality are extensive. Most of these teachings take a positive form, filling out such realities as sexual dimorphism with meaning and purpose, rather than the negative form of prohibiting particular behaviours.

As Christians, it is our duty to speak publicly to the subject of same-sex marriage because we are part of the society, it is our duty also to preach against it. Marriage and the family that emanates from it represents the fundamental institution of the original creation. It relates us to deep and transcendent dimesions of reality. It explores and articulates the meanings of the most basic created anthopological difference and relationship (between a man and a woman). Therefore we must do all we can to guard it by preaching the truth and praying for the conversion of those involved in same-sex activities for the sake of the good of our society and for the generation to come.

LOOK BEYOUND THE SURFACE

It is very easy for us to misinterpret what we see without knowing all the facts. Many of us go into a relationship with a checklist of what we want in our partners, eg: good looks, financial success, good job, jovia, romantic, etc. The problem with these lists, however, is that they tend to be only surface deep. Surely, it would be great to live with someone who has good job, good looks, rich, etc; but can you live with someone who is good-looking, rich, arogant and unkind? HELL NO. This is why it is very important to ‘LOOK BEYOUND THE SURFACE’ when choosing a [life] partner.

Suppose you want to buy a car. How thoroughly would you research it? Would you be concerned only about the outer appearance of it? Would you not take your time to look deeply-perhaps learning as much as u can about the state of the car engine?
Finding a partner is a much weighter issue than choosing a car. Yet, many of our youths who date, do not look beyound the surface, instead they quickly point to the things they share in common: we enjoy the same activities, we belong to the same society in church, we are from the same town, we attended the same primary & secondary school, even university, we agree to everything.
Though there is nothing wrong with with any of the above mentioned, there is every need to look beyound the supperficial traits because it will help to see the need of discern the secret person of the heart.

Rather than focus on the things you share or have in common, or on how much you agree to everything, it would be much better to note what will happen when you both disagree with each other. In other words, how would he or she react if it results to conflict? Wuold he or she be the type that will insist on his or her own dicision? Giving in to fist of anger? Would he or she be the type that would rain insults on you no matter the situation? Or would he or she be the type that would show reasonableness and a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake? Would he or she be the type that would be the first to say ”sorry” even when they are not at fault just to make peace?
You would also need to consider some other factors like if this person is possessive, or manipulative or jealous. Mind you, no man can possess a woman unless they are legally married.

PURPOSES AND PRINCIPLES
Relationship, beyound the biological purposes, is probably the richest environment for self-discovery and realising our potentials as humans. It is the richest environment for learning how to live with others. It is also the richest environment for learning how to be true to ourselfves.
Now ask yourself this question: what is the purpose of my relationship?
Is it for happiness?
Is it for sex?
Is it for commitment?
Is it for children?
Is it to avoid being lonly?
The big problem though is that these are not solid ground to build a relationship upon:
1.HAPPINESS: If things get difficult, you won’t be happy all the time about your relationship. Yet happiness is the reason for the relationship in the first place, then what stops you from divorcing when the happiness is no more?

2.SEX: What if your partner’s sex dirve changes, they become depressed, or they lose the ability to perform? If sex is the primary reason of your relationship, then you will be in for some difficult times.

3.COMMITMENT: If your partner cheats, has an emotional affair, or is otherwise having doubts about the relationship, you probably won’t feel the security of commitment. And if this is the central reason for your relationship, then you would need to give it a second thought.

4.CHILDREN: No doubt, children are a gift from God, but they eventually grow up and start lives of their own. If the foundation of your relationship is biult on this, what is goin to fill the void once they move out of the house and become independent? Or what if you are not able to have children at all? What happens to your relationship then?

5. AVOIDING LONELINESS: No one wants to be lonely. However, if you enter into a relationship for the fear of being lonely, then what happens when you or your partner have to go out of town for a long period on buisiness? What becomes of your relationship?
The problem of the examples i listed above is that they are all very conditional reasons to have a relationship, and they involve relying on somthing outside your control. Unfortunatly, we cannot always rely on things outside our control being there for us. You can possibly influence your partner but you have no control over their own emotions ande vice versa. So if your relationship is based on somthing you canot control, or take personal responsibility for, then it should come as no suprice to you when your relationship seems to be hanging on for life at the whims of fate and circumstances.

TO BE CONTINUED…
Avoid conditional relationships.

LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS.
DATE WITH POSITIVE REASONS.
AVOID PREMARITAL SEX.
LOVE LIFE.
STAY TUNED.

CHOOSING THE RIGHT PERSON

A healthy, loving relationship can enhance many aspects of your life; from your emotional and mental well-being to your physical health and overall happiness.
Life as a single person offers many rewards, including learning to build a healthy relationship with yourself. However, if you are ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting worthwhile relationship, life as a single person could also be frustrating.
Finding the right partner is often a difficult journey for several reasons. Perhaps you grew up in a househoold where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt such thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists of only short relationships where you or your partner gets bord too soon, and you don’t know how to make a lasting relationship work.
You could possibly be attracted to the wrong person or keep making the same bad choices over and over again, due to an unresolved issue from your past. It is also possible that you are not putting yourself in the right environment to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don’t feel confident enough to aproach the person. Whatever the case may be, it is important to note that a healthy relationship for you and me exists in the future. It is also important to recognise that relationships are never perfect, and always require lots of work compromise and willingness to resolve conflicts in a positive way.
To build a strong and loving relationship, you will need to sart by re-assessing some of your missconceptions about relationships that can prevent you from finding lasting love.

A healthy relationship is one in which two persons develop a connection based on;
¤trust,
¤honesty,
¤support,
¤fairness/equality,
¤separate identities,
¤respecting differences,
¤good communication,
¤a sense of humor, etc

THE NEEDS AND WANTS

When looking for a lasting relationship, forget what looks right, forget what you think should be right,and forget what your parents, friends and other people think should be right and ask yourself: does this relationship feel right for me?

The first step to finding a suitable partner is to distinguish between what you want and what you need in a partner. Wants are negotiable, needs are not. Wants includes the things you would like in a potential partner. Needs are those things that matter to you most; such as values, goals, ambitions, etc.
What qualities would you view as essential in a potential life partner? Check the list below.

¤God- fearing,
¤Goal oriented,
¤Trustworthy,
¤Honesty,
¤Supportive,
¤Respectful,
¤Peaceful,
¤Gentle,
¤Loving,
¤Kind,
¤Dependable,
¤Caring,
¤Good listener,
¤Morally upright,
¤Friendly,
¤Funny,
¤Jovia, etc.

Actually, there is nothing wrong with any of the above mentioned qualities. Each of them has its own appeal. But before you decide to put any of them into consideration, and guess who might be the right person for you, it will be important for you to know and understand yourself first.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE
Making the best decisions starts with knowing yourself and being honest about what you really want. While making decisions, other people are to be considered, but it begins and ends with you. Whichever decision you make at this point, will impact your life for a long time and hopefully for the rest of your life.
Being completely honest with yourself about who you are and who this person is, and what each of you wants from the relationship, will help you make the best possible decision. It is also important to know who you really are, what you want in life, your dreams, your strength, your weaknessess, your values, goals, ambition, emotional needs and your purpose in life. Providing answers to these questions will get you started. The more you know yourself, the more and better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknessess. Now the big question is:
WILL IT BE JUST ANYBODY IN THE STREETS?

”Hello dear, can I get to know you better?” This question will either make you feel embarrased or leap for joy-depending on who is asking.
Suppose your answer is yes. Over the cost of time, how can you tell if he/she is trully the right person for you? Suppose you walk into a store to buy a pair of shoes; while looking around, you found a pair that catches your eyes. You then try on them, only to find that-much to yuor disappointment-they are not your size. What would you do: buy them anyway? Or look for another?
It is similar with choosing a date or marriage partner. Afterall, we all need someone who we will be comfortable with. Someone who trully fits our personalities and our goals.

Now having considered this, do you still think yuo have found the right person for you?

TO BE CONTINUED…

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LOOK BEYOUND THE SURFACE
PURPOSE & PRINCIPLES.

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CAUSES AND CONSEQUENCES OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY

The hundreds of early childbearing and disadvantaged teens are undeniable. Trying to untangle the factors which contributes to teen pregnancy from its effects, however, leads to a ”which came first, the chick or the egg” delema. Educational failure, poverty, low self-esteem, illiteracy, sexual abuse, cultural practices,etc, are understood to be part of the causes of teen pregnancy; while unemployment, educational failure, poverty, etc, are the negative outcomes of early childbearing. A study research suggests that most adolescent mothers have already dropped out of school before they become pregnant. On the other hand, adolescents still enrolled in school when they give birth are as likely to graduate as their peers. It is not clear though, how well the adolescents with the most problems would have faced in future even without early parenthood.

CAUSES
1. LACK OF PARENT GUIDE: Most parents evade their children from talking about sex. In some cases, they provide false information regarding sex and discourage their kids to participate in any informative discussion about sex. Many of the teenage mothers are not well educated about sex before getting pregnant and thus this leads to lack of communication between the parents and the children.

2. ADOLESCENT SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR: Among the adolescents, the peerpresure is a major factor that encourages the teen boys and gilrs to indulge in sexual activities. Peers gets information about sex from a very wide range of sources-internet, medea,etc; and most of these information are misleading. Without the guidance of their parents, they will easily spread these false massages across with encouragement to engage in premature sex.

3.INADEQUATE KNOWLEDGE ABOUT SAFE SEX: In as much as some parents try to prevent their children from engaging in premature sexual relationship, it still happens due to peer pressure and wanting to feel among. Not having any knowledge about safe sex and contraceptions, also contributes to teenage pregnancy. Parents while teaching their chidren sex education, should also talk to them about safe sex and the use of contraceptives just in case of nesseccities.

4.EXPLOITATION BY OLDER MEN: This is another major factor that contributes to pregnancy among teens. Girls who date older men are more likely to become pregnant before they reach womanhood.

5.SOCIO-ECONOMIC FACTOR: Teen girls who belong to poor families are more likeliy to become pregnant. Even in most deveploed countries of the world, teen pregnancy occurs most commonly among the deprived sections.

EFFECTS/CONSEQUENCIES
Teenage pregnancy is a very vital issue for several reasons; for example, there are health ricks for the new born, and children born to teen mothers are likely to suffer health, social and emotional problems than children born to older mothers. Teenage mothers are likely to drop out of school. Only few tends to futher their education, the rest would prefer to start up a pety-buiseness in other to raise money for their up keep especially when the father denies responsibilities.

There are other negative implications for women who conceive before the age of 20. Some die while giving birth, some even commit suicide due to not being able to stand the shame and the consequences involed. Marriage is also a problem as most responsible men wouldn’t want to marry a woman with kids already. Some lack parental care, while some give in to abortion.
Children who are bron to teen mothers also experience a wide range of problmes for example, they are more likely to have a higher rick for low birth weight and infant mortality, lower level of emotional support, behavioural problems, rely more heavily on publicly fund health care, lower school aechievement, possibly drop out of school due to lack of fund, be unemployed, and end up on the streets.
These immediate and long lasting effects continue for teen parents and their children for a longer period.

There are many other causes and effects of teen pregnancy, but the fact however, remains that most of the teen pregnancies are unintentional. Additionally, most of them occur to unwell-informed teen girls. This means that even though most of them don’t want to get pregnant at an early stage, they still become so as a result of sexual activity. While actual force to have sex is rare, many teen girls-especially those under age 15- feel pressured to have sex; and obviously, the more intercourse a teen has, the more likely it is to result in pregnancy.

We can’t afford to continue tosing our promising young girls to avoidable death from pregnancy complications. Therefore, is it high time we addressed teen pregnancy, especially with the disturbing increase of teens in sexual activities. There are still some places here in Nigeria where girls are regarded as commodity.

TOGETHER, WE CAN BUILD A NATION FREE OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY.

SAY NO TO ABUSE OF SEX.
SAY NO TO ABUSE OF THE GIRL-CHILD.

LOVE LIFE. SAVE A SOUL.

A SEX EDUCATION GUIDE FOR PARENTS

When talking to children about sex, parents should learn to give age-appropriate answers. This means explaining things in a way that the child can understand given their age. No need to answer questions they have’nt asked.
Below is a guide to what children should be able to understand about sex and reproduction at different ages.

1.INFANCY (UP TO WO YEARS): Toddlers should be able to name all the body parts including the genitals.

2. EARLY CHILDHOOD(2-5YEARS): At this stage, children should be able to understand the basics of reproduction: a man and a woman make a baby together, and the baby grows in the uterus. They sould understand that their body is their own. Parents should teach them about privacy around body.

3. MIDDLE CHILDHOOD(5-8YEARS OLD): Children should have basic understanding that some people are heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. They should also know what the role of sexuality is in a relationship. They should know about the basic social conversations of privacy, nudity and respect for others in relationships. They should also be taught the basics about puberty towards the ed of thus age span, as a number of children will experience some pubertal development before age 10.

4. TEEN STAGE(10-18YEARS): In addition to reinforcing all the things above that they have already learned, teens should be taught about safe sex, abstinence and contraception. They should understand what makes a positive relationship and what makes a bad one. They should be taught about healthy relationship free of sex, and sexual related activities. They should be taught how to abstain from pre-mature/pre-marital sex, consequences of teenage pregnancy, keeping a healthy relationship, also how to chose positive tv programmes, to read mutivational books, and not to engage in pornography.

Teens are very private people. However, if parents have sopken to their children about sex at early age, increases the chances that teens will approach them when difficult and dangerous things comes up.
When kids ask questions about sex, parents should not regard them as silly to be brushed aside, but answered appropriately. They should also throw questions back at them to find out what they already know and where they heard it from. This way, parents will be able to correct any misinformation from the start.

When young people feel unconnected to home and school, they may get involved in activities that will put their health at risk. Although many adults want youths to know about abstinence, contraception and how to prevent STIs, parents often have difficulties in communicating about sex. Nevertheless, positive communication between parents and children greatly helps young people to establish individual values and to make healthy decisions.
Young people are more likely to make better and more informed decision when adequately educated, and parents will feel more confident knowing that their children are aware of the realities around their reproductive lives. Although most parents work hard to prevent their children from premarital sex, it still happens. Educating the child on the importance of protection as part of safe sex routine may serve a higher purpose of preventing STIs. Sex education should ideally start in the home where parents should engage their children as active participants in their development process. This education continues at school in a way that preserves the family and the societal realities. The social developmet of young people is a product of family and society partnership, where these children are active participants in their own lives. Education is by no means an enemy to humanity, but the ignorance is. Education provides the enabling environment for young people to question and understand better some of the essential questions they may have.

Parents should learn to exercise reasonable judgement in dissemnating important information about sex education to their children. If their kids are not comfortable discussing sex with them, how then would they have the courage to inform them about sexual abuse? This results in the child having self-blame, guilt, anxiety and fear of family and outsiders. For teens, they may possibly be increased aggrssion, hostility and some may even turn to drugs and other high-rick behaviours for consolation later in life.
Having the right information and sex education would help the child deal with challenges that life may throw at them in relation to their sexual future.

TOGETHER, WE CAN BUILD A SEXUAL HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT FOR OURSELVES AND FOR GENERATIONS TO COME. LOVE LIFE. SAVE A SOUL.

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SEX EDUCATION AND ITS IMPORTANCE

The youths of today are faced with mordenization and it has brought a lot of consequences. For a long time now, the issue of sex education for young people, particularly here in Africa, has remained a taboo. Although sex education is a natural development process, many parents, cultures and societies frown at discussing sex education with their adolescent children because it is perceived as a generational taboo. A good sex education is needed so that the youths can gather their acts together.

Sex education is the process of acquaring positive information and forming attitudes and beliefs about sex, sexual identities, relationships and intimacy. Without distroying the fabric of the society, it is very important to give the young people sex education in a way that not only reflects the values of the family and the society, but also enhances the sustainability of a balanced culture.

Having sex is a primitive human tendency that emerges in all of us in different forms and at different times. One thing is certain: if parents fail to educate their children on sex and sex-related issues, they will learn it from other sources. It is not only important as a developmental process in the life of a child, it also helps the child to understand him or herself better in relationship to the immediate environment and the threates that could emerge from such interaction; meaning that young people would gain more knowledge and the ability to defend themselves and alert people of the threates of sexual exploitation if they are sexually educated. Educating our young people about themselves sends a message of self-appriciation, self-esteem and highlights the fact that the change they are experiencing or would experience later in life, is indeed normal.
But it is unfurtunate that our parents have adamantly restricted themselves from such discussions. And the reasons to this are not far-fetched!
Some parents believe that talking to their children about sex would lead to premarital sexual activities, while some believe that it will make them promiscuous. Another reason why parents shy away from it is that they believe that their children already knows whatever it is they need to know about sex, either from the school, church or friends. Actually, young people get a lot information about sex & sexuality from a wide range of sources, including peers. But unfortunately most of these information are inacurate and misleading. For instance, false beliefs are spreading around young people today that if you don’t have sex, you are still not matured; you can’t get pregnant if you have sex while standing; you cant get pregnant if you do it just once; etc. These are some of the outrageous beliefs among the young people. But if our parents begin to take their God-giving privileges seriously, they will be able to find out what their youths’ beliefs are and correct every mis-information they may have gathered.

IMPORTANCE OF SEX EDUCATION
As far as sex education for youth is concerned, one does see an obvious increase in un-intended pregnancies, mis-carriages, abortions and spread of STDs. This statistical evidence also proves how unaware the youths are in terms of risking their lives. Precausionary measures are highly needed at this time.

IMPARTING SEX EDUCATION TO YOUTHS

1. Introducing sex education in schoold corricumum: this may be implemented in private and government schools with a carefully knitted syllabus covering all the aspects of sex education for youths.

2. Various risky behaviours among youths such as forced sex, pornography, physical abuse, can lead to early pregnancies. This should form the vital part of the curriculum helping them to understand the unethical and inhuman aspects of such behaviours.

3. It should also provide the knowledge of contraceptives and the differences between various contraception methods; eg: morning pills, condoms, etc.

4. Help the youth to understand, through intensive programmes; the importance of sex worth. Every human should learn the importance and understand the worth of life.

5. Schools should have a good sex education which includes not only knowing the anatomy of the body parts, but also how to take care of them.

6. Schools should inculcate in them the values of self worth among students so that they can say no to sexual predators.

7. They should tell them the importance of knowing the consequences of physically abusing themselves and engaging in sexual risk behavious.

8. Educate them on the appropriate time to have sex.

9. Help them to know the benefits of being chaste till marriage.

10. Teach them the consequences of pre-marital sex and teenage pregnancy.

11. Help them to understand that sexual expression outside of marriage will have harmful social, psychological and physical consequences.

TO BE CONTINUED…
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NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF TEENAGE RELATIONSHIP

As the advent of internet exposes more and more teenagers to issues of life and sex, more and more of them are getting into relationships and dating at a very young age. It has been observed that teenage relationships are extremely susceptible to quick disintegration. Moreover, teenage relationship leads to numerous other damaging outcomes on the physical and emotional health of those involved. Below is a list of major negative effects of teenage relationship.

1. UNDEVELOPMENT
Firstly, teenagers are biologically immature to deal with relationships. A teenager’s brain is not fully armed with the required experience and knowledge to be able to distinguish between the right and the wrong person for them. If a teenager gets physical with a person they are dating, it leads to extremely detrimental consiquences on their health and emotional state. Teenage is a stage of preparation where a person undergoes important biological metamorphosis and the body readies itself for adult experiences. So if love, sex and other relationship related issues come before time, naturally the body and the mind will goof up and retaliate on account of lack of preparedness.

2. EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY
Teenagers are prone to extreme emotional instability, mood swings, contradictory feelings and reckless actions. Emotional maturity is a matter of time, age and experience. While some teens are definitely more mature and serious about life than others, they can be completely not denying the fact that none of them whatsoever are completely ready to handle the emotional stress and resposibilities that a relationship entalis. As a consequence of their emotional inaptitude, they are unable to deal with the many problmes associated with a relationship. They feel possessive, get hurt easily, prone to fall into depression, they become completely dependent on their partners for their happiness and wellbeing, and they begin to circle their existence solely around them, thereby ignoring their healthy parts of life like their studies, families and friends.

3. LIFE- LONG SCARS
The teenage is an extremely sensitive territory. Every experience, good or bad, creates a deep and irascible imprint on the mind of the teen. More often, teenage relationships backfires completely and leave irrevocable scars of the emotional make-up of person.

Teenager’s lives should be spent in making good friends, having great times with them, studying hard, crushing on a lot of people and other pleasant things. A relationship at such a tender age, basically exposes them to the kind of anxiety and trauma that married people go through.

Falling into a relationship erases the brighter and the more important aspects of a teenager’s life. They begin to sideline issues that are more important. Although some try to manage to retain dedication towards studies and career, most of them become distracted and disinteretsed. This inevitably leads to regrets and problems later on i life. Teenage dating also makes a teen more distant from their friends and families. They centre their social existence completely around their partners.

A POSIBLE WAY TO PREVENT TEENAGE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS
All students should receive education about healthy relationship in schools as a part of health education. These lessons should include understanding and identifying healthy and unhealthy relationships pattern, effective ways to communicate relationship needs and manage conflict, and strategies to avoid or end unhealthy relationships.
Sex education should also be encouraged in schools to help them know and understand the locations and functions of their sex organs, to know appropriate time to engage in sexual relationships and also to have self worth so that they have a high regard of themselves and to be able to say ”NO” to sexual predators.

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8 QUESTIONS A MAN SHOULD NEVER ASK A WOMAN.

There is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted. Understanding the love language of women matters; therefore, men must at all cost, avoid asking women following questions:

1. Can I kiss you?
It is totaly wrong for a man to ask a woman if he can kiss her as she would only say a man should never ask for a kiss.
Asking her for permission to kiss her will only make you look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says ”yes”, it could be that she is only trying to be polite, while on the other side her attraction meter will read a firm ”NO.” do not ask for permission. Just go for it, if she turns her head or push you away, that’s a better form of rejection than saying ”NO”.

2. Can I take you out on a date sometime?
A woman will always like to be with a man who is a leader and in control of everything, not someone who asks her permission to hit her. A man should confidently ask a woman out by simply saying ”lets go out for a date… What’s your number?

3. How many men have you slept with?
It is totaly not your business to know the number of men she has slept with before meeting you. Asking her such question will make her feel you are not secured with her.

4. Are you still a virgin?
This is one rediculous question that most women will never want to respond to as it makes them feel embarrassed and unsecured. You don’t have to ask. Just findout for yourself.

5. Why didn’t you reply my text message?
A man should never ask a woman such question as it would show that he cared she didn’t reply back; it would also make her feel guilt.

6. Do you like me?
This is one phrase that turns off a woman completely! Just assume she likes you, don’t ask her, as it would look like you have no confidence.

7. What do you want to do for the weekend?
A woman likes a ”man with plan”. You need to have a game of plan before calling her, so as to ensure that she wont be bordened with having to think of what to do.

8. Will you marry me?
Hey, am just kidding. Just try to make sure you say it just onece in life.

So, there you have it. Real men don’t take permission from women. They are always in control. You just have to be very polite yet very confident.

Be free to ask questions and comments.

TOP 10 EASY WAYS TO GET RID OF BAD VAGINA SMELL

Truly all vaginas have their own natural smell, or maybe I should scent (lol). That unique scent can be an aphrodisiac for your partner, but when your vagina starts smelling too fishy, then something is wrong somewhere.
Below are top 10 easy ways to help you get rid of that bad smell from the inside out.

1. Eat a good quantity of citrus fruits like Oranges and Lemons.

2. Indian Goosberry also helps to give the vagina a unique scent.

3. Add fresh yughurt to your diet.

4. Garlic is also very friendly, as it helps to keep away bacteria infections.

5. Drink lots of water always.

6. Use water everytime you use a toilet, a wipe is far more better than a tissue paper.

7. Avoid using douches. Wash your vagina with unscented soap or simple feminine wash for the external area only.

8. Keep the vagina area clean and dry always, also keep your public hair short.

9. Always wear cotton underwears, or those with cotton in the vagina area (you can go commando, but that will only be when you are putting on trousers).

10. During your period, change your sanitary pads or tampons frequently and use plenty liners during your ovulation.

So there you go. No more bad pussy smell. (please avoid douches and feminine sprays around vulva area.).

Feel free to ask your questions. Comments are also welcomed.

10 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT HER VAGINA

It is so amazing how much misinformation is out there about the vagina. Given how facinated our society is with the female body, you would think we would be a little more informed. Many of us still have alot to learn about our anatomy.

To help out, I have compiled a list of 10 things I believe every woman should know about her vagina.

1. While men pee out of the penis, women don’t pee out of the vagina. There are three holes and countless other sexy structures.
LESSON: Get a mirror and go to town. From front to back, the URETHRA is the first hole, the VAGINA is the second hole and the ANUS is the third hole. It’s funny right. You would be amazed how many people don’t know this.

2. The vagina doesn’t connect to the lung. If you lose anything there, don’t panic. Reach in all the way and pull it out. But please do not go hunting for whatever you lost with a pair of plier.

3. Yes- truly the vagina can fall out. It can turn inside out just like a worm out of sweat sock and hang between your legs as you get older. It is called pelvic prolapse. Don’t fret. It can be fixed!

4. Contrary to popular mythology, there is no such thing as being re-virginized. Once you have lose it, it is gone forever. You can use alom, lime or nzu; it will only tighten the opening of the vagina but will never bring back your virginity.

5. You can catch sexually transmitted diseases even if you use condom. Sorry to tell you this; but the skin of the vulva can still touch infectious skin of the scrotum and there you go!

6. Vagina farts happens to almost all women especially during sex or other forms of excercise. But don’t be embarrased. You are very ok.

7. Lots of vagina needs help lubin up during sex, especially as you get older. Do not be afraid to slick in some lubricant like K-Y Jelly or Astroglide, or you try coconut oil which is actually is a great natural lubricant.

8. If you are hunting for your G Spot, be very patient. Stimulating this area usually requires more and depper stimulation than most people think.

9. Most women do not have orgasms from sex alone. The clitoris is where the action is. Most women who orgasm during sex have figured out how to hit their sweet spot, either by positioning or from direct stimulation of the clit with their fingers.

10. Every vulva is different and beautiful just as the boobs differs in shapes. Some lips hang down. Some ar tucked up neatly inside. Some are long. Some are short. Some are even. Some are not. But all are beautiful.

So there you have it. It is important you know things like this, because you can’t truly love all of yourself until you love your girly parts; and same goes to the guys.

The vagina is always clean so no need for douche sprays, floral or berry. It is supposed to smell like pussy not like rose petals.

THE MORE WE LEARN, THE MORE WE HAVE CONTROL OVER OUR LIVES.